With four simple statements, shamanic teacher and healer Don Miguel Ruiz steps in his own vein to present an effective personal code of conduct and eliminate negative concepts and beliefs that limit our own behavior. The third agreement describes the question of whether assumptions are made, how they lead to suffering, and why individuals should not participate in it. Accepting what others think can cause stressful and interpersonal conflicts because the person believes that their hypothesis is a representation of the truth. [10] Ruiz believes that one solution to overcome the act of adoption is to ask questions and ensure that communication between those involved is clear. [9] Individuals can avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama by not making assumptions. [1] Although the chords are sometimes oversimplified, it`s still a great little book with some heavy ideas. Focusing on one of these agreements can greatly improve your life and reduce stress. Focusing on all four can really change many people`s lives. If these suggestions are followed in a general and non-fanatical way, they can help you reduce a large amount of stress by helping you avoid thought and behavior patterns that cause frustration, blame, hurt feelings, and other negative emotions. His most famous book, The Four Agreements, was published in 1997 and sold about 10 million copies in the United States[9] and has been translated into 46 languages. The book advocates personal freedom from the beliefs and agreements we have made with ourselves and others that create boundaries and unhappiness in our lives.

[10] It aired on the OPRAH TV show. [11] The four agreements are as follows: In part 2 of this 2-part video, we get to know the book of the law that governs our mind and the inner judge that makes us suffer because we never live up to our “image of perfection.” All our normal tendencies are lost in the process of domestication, and we begin to look for what we have lost. We seek freedom because we are no longer free; we seek happiness because we are no longer happy; we seek beauty because we no longer believe that we are beautiful. What we are looking for is our “self”. With practice, the Four Accords help us restore our “authentic self,” and this is the greatest gift we can give ourselves. In part 1 of this 2-part video, we learn more about the “domestication” of man and how all the rules and values of our family and society are imposed on us by a system of punishment and reward. As young children, our true nature is to love and be happy, to explore and enjoy life; we are absolutely authentic. But then we learn to be what others think we “should” be, and because it`s not acceptable for us to be who we are, we start pretending to be what we aren`t. When you are a teenager, you have learned to judge yourself, to punish yourself, to reward yourself according to agreements that you have never chosen.